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access_flux
05-28-2003, 06:49 PM
hey ya'll....



ok, i got a problem.. i ned your help.. i tell the story absolutely true..


ok..

as most of you know, i am on Exchange in Germany(51 days left) and well i was away up in hamburg, ( i live in Frankfurt) for two weeks for a camp, and i was with a family... and i did the unimaginable..



I FELL IN LOVE..

with my host sister..

it was like love at first sight believe me..

we talk a bit after we decide we are together, and i find out in February this year she dumped her 2 year bf. he dumped her, adn then a week later he was with a school friend of hers as in porking... this is her first relationship since that, adn he found out after about 4 days. he rang her up and argued with her for an hour and a half about me.. and she wouldn'T give me the phone so i could have a word to him.

then day later.. ( i don't know whether any of you believe in love at first sight, and i mean REAL love) i said i was coming back for her, and she said in that case marry me within 3 years.. i was over the moon, and really stoked...

then i have to leave a week and a bit later. i told her i am coming back to Germany next year july for her and she was soooo happy. i am coming back for her.

then on saturday (last saturaday) a week after i had left, her X comes around to pick up the lst of his stuff.

he says to her that night, that he wants to sleep with her, and wants her back. she says no, and then he proceeds to kiss her on the neck. she says stop, and he tries again.she says fark off.

today he sent her flowers flowers.

then i got this email...

Hi Schatz,

Tut mir leid wegen eben, aber ich bin heute auch irgendwie nicht so gut drauf. Tobi ruft mich ständig an und auch noch jemand
anderes. Ich glaube, ich brauch ein wenig Zeit zum Nachdenken. Das verwirrt mich alles ganz schön. Ich hatte heute sogar schon einen
ganzen Srauss Rosen vor der Tür. Und ich denke, ich weiß auch von wem die waren. Und Du bist so weit weg... ich weiß nicht mehr, was
ich machen soll! Sei mir jetzt bitte nicht böse. Ich liebe Dich über alles, aber...!
Naja, wie auch immer, auf jeden Fall tut es mir leid wegen vorhin. Viel Spaß noch. Ach ja, ich werde heute und die nächsten Abende
wohl nichts machen, da ich die ganze Zeit arbeiten muss. Vielleicht fahre ich auch doch noch einen Tag an die Ostsee. Also, versuch
nicht so viel an mich zu denken, dann vermisst Du mich auch nicht so sehr.
Bis bald JULIA


translate it if you can't understand. then i got a message right now telling me that her ex said that he doesn'T want to hurt her anymore cause he loves her so much, and asking me if I am really serious....


i love this girl more then life itself, and i don't know what i would do if she left me..



HELP ME NOW!

obi
05-28-2003, 07:04 PM
Translation: (pm me access, if you don't want the translation posted)Hi treasure



Harms because of even, but I am me today also somehow not so well thereon. Tobi calls me permanently and also yet someone other. I believe, I custom a little time for meditation. That confuses me all very prettily. I had today even already an entire Srauss rose before the door. And I think, were I white also of whom
that. And you are so far away... I white no longer, what I should make! Do not be angry me now please. I love you over all, aber... Naja, like also always, in any case it harms me because of just now. Much joke yet. Alas yes, I become today and the next evening probably do nothing make because I must work the entire
time. Perhaps I go also yet another day at the Baltic Sea. To not to think therefore, attempt so much of me, you miss me also not so very. Until soon JULIA

Now, that doesn't make very much sense, but thats how it translated in the machine thing. Is that close? If it is, I have no idea what she said.

ZBomber
05-28-2003, 07:22 PM
Originally posted by obi-wan13
Translation: (pm me access, if you don't want the translation posted)

Now, that doesn't make very much sense, but thats how it translated in the machine thing. Is that close? If it is, I have no idea what she said.

hehe. Maybe because there are no accent marks or somethin?

:( Good luck man. :(

Jo
05-28-2003, 07:51 PM
i love this girl more then life itself, and i don't know what i would do if she left me..

Say exactly that to her, as long as you truly mean it!:D

Breton
05-28-2003, 08:08 PM
Originally posted by obi-wan13
Translation: (pm me access, if you don't want the translation posted)

Now, that doesn't make very much sense, but thats how it translated in the machine thing. Is that close? If it is, I have no idea what she said.

Not that I know much German, but that translation is pretty faulty, I'm afraid. But that's a bit off-topic, so we shouldn't go very much into that. Except Ich weiß means "I know", not "I white".

Anyway, I'm afraid you have a bit of a problem, flux. First thing you should do is to find out if this love is going to last, that it's not something that passes away in a month. But if it is going to last, well, forever, then it might be an idea to talk a bit to the other guy, and find out how he feels about her. And try to solve the problem in a civilized way, that's the most important.







(alright, I KNOW it's a bit off-topic, but...

Also, versuch
nicht so viel an mich zu denken, dann vermisst Du mich auch nicht so sehr. - To not to think therefore, attempt so much of me, you miss me also not so very.


:eyeraise:

Also, versuch
nicht so viel an mich zu denken, dann vermisst Du mich auch nicht so sehr. - Also, try not to think so much about me, then you won't miss me that much.

access_flux
05-28-2003, 08:35 PM
i just spoke to her....


well things look good...


she kept telling me, she loved me, and that she doesn't want to lose me, after i PROVED TO HER THAT I WAS THE ONE.


which involved me telling her 2 suprisese... me being there for her birthday, and me recodring 2 songs for her...



what can i do to let her know that i will be serious for a year?????



HELP ME!!

Sam Fisher
05-28-2003, 08:44 PM
I don't know much about this kind of thing, but do you know how many threads like this we have a month?

















Its kinda annoying...

Jo
05-28-2003, 08:53 PM
well, at least it proves they have a life away from their computer.

@ Access:I don't know what you could do, the best idea i have is to SHOWER her with gifts. and alot of I Love U cards, etc.

ckcsaber
05-28-2003, 08:56 PM
Long distance relationships are really hard to keep access. I have been in one before, and that was just across the US. You really need to think this through completely. Seeing that your somewhere around 17-18 (profile), you probably won't have too much money too spend flying back and forth to Germany. Work all of this out with her, so both of you completely understand that you won't be seeing each other often. Also, truly consider marriage, and whether or not you can handle it in 3 years.

Regarding her ex, just meet him before you leave and try and talk it out like gentlemen. Tell her that you really love her, and that you don't want him getting between the two of you.

Just remember to think things out logically. Sometimes running headfirst into love is not the best thing to do.


@SamFisher

If it's annoying, don't post in the thread. And this is a genuine concern for access, not some sort of way to raise his post-count or whatnot. Posts like yours are what I consider annoying.

Kstar__2
05-29-2003, 05:30 AM
Originally posted by SamFisher
I don't know much about this kind of thing, but do you know how many threads like this we have a month?


Its kinda annoying...

sam, one thing you have to learn: access is the exeption ;)

oh and access, i'm surprised i can ever read that, i guess my german isn't that bad after all:D

well, IMO (i know it sounds harsh, sorry for that) if she loves you equally, she won't go back to that german guy, if she does, i guess you weren't ment for eichother :(


and who wants to trade an australian guy for a german guy anyway?:p

Pad
05-29-2003, 04:31 PM
Originally posted by ckcsaber
Long distance relationships are really hard to keep access. I have been in one before, and that was just across the US. You really need to think this through completely. Seeing that your somewhere around 17-18 (profile), you probably won't have too much money too spend flying back and forth to Germany. Work all of this out with her, so both of you completely understand that you won't be seeing each other often. Also, truly consider marriage, and whether or not you can handle it in 3 years.

i agree, with ckcsaber,
far distance relationships are very hard. i suggest you look deeply in yourself and gather all your thoughts about this reltionship. after soin so the best thing is to talk to your girl and ask her now she feels. (i know ppl´s feelings can change so)
if its still mutual work someting out how and when you can see each other. msn or any other chat program can be very usefull to talk to each other on various occasions.

and flux, good luck ;)



I don't know much about this kind of thing, but do you know how many threads like this we have a month?

Its kinda annoying...
i once posted that you dont need to post in evry thread posted a the swamp. if you think its crap, leave it alone. such posts only put yourself in a bad daylight. and speakin of annoying, how about postin a sig thread when we already have a sig thread?
no harm ment btw, but DO THINK before you post. ;)

•-BLaCKouT-•
05-29-2003, 05:53 PM
Originally posted by ckcsaber
Long distance relationships are really hard to keep

This is true of course - but don't let anyone tell you that they can't work.

I'm living proof that they can. I'm really feeling for you over this Access, jeez I've got tears in my eyes as I type this (I know, I know!). But I agree with the others, good communication is the key here.

Follow your heart and talk to her.
Big peace,
B.

(oh, and Sam... well the others have already said it really, but I've got to add... Dude? :( I'm disappointed.)

platypus202
05-30-2003, 02:42 AM
I would write ther a very long love letter. Take her out somewhere to hav efun. And show that you really love her. Do not shower her with gifts. That will not do any good. Take her out instead. That is better than gifts.


Best of Luck

C'jais
05-30-2003, 01:09 PM
I understood nothing at all from reading that garbled babelfish (mis)translation.

Zip.

Nada.



Someone clarify the problem for me?

Kstar__2
05-30-2003, 02:06 PM
ok, access has been with this girl in germany, but he went back to australia, now here EX keeps calling her and sending her flowers and stuff, she says she loves access really much, but doesn't know what to do

access obviousely wants here to not go back to that wierd german bloke ;)