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Ztalker
02-20-2008, 09:20 AM
Hello there...

Although I normally stay away from the Kavar corner (my English isn't good enough to contribute), this is something I have to share..

It's not discuss anything, but quit heavy stuff nonetheless:

Yesterday, I was a guest at the cremation of friend of the family. She died of cancer, far too young and left a terribly sad family behind, with a broken husband an three sons.

But the..memorial service was..beautifull. Her music was played when we entered the room, her son ignited a candle, a story about her life was told and more music was played. It was simply beatifull.
Although the overall feel is sadness, the service itself was very satifying and in some way,

So..my question: have you thought about your own...way to go? The music? The poems? location?

El Sitherino
02-20-2008, 10:30 AM
Quite often actually. Granted I've made a few choices in life that many would never consider allowing themselves to take, so preparing for death was a common thing me to do. I probably still have some notes I've written to people in case they'd ever had those ever present questions when someone dies.

JoeDoe 2.0
02-20-2008, 11:17 AM
As many men in my family have said, "I'll probably never reach 60 anyways", but almost all have surpassed 86, so I won't get to plan that for while

If I was to describe the funeral service I would choose when the day comes:

1. A small group of relatives and friends
2. Ceremony should be held at the funeral home
3. A brief speech by family members
4. Cremation is my way to go

Just a quiet service would be fine with me as well.

mur'phon
02-20-2008, 11:29 AM
My body will be used for transplants/research, the useless parts might as well be used as fertilizer.

Achilles
02-20-2008, 11:46 AM
I recently had a death in the family also, so I too have put some thought into this, as of late.

Personally, I would really hope that my loved ones would forego any kind of memorial service. If they felt the need to hold one as part of their own grieving process, then that's fine, however if they really wanted to "honor my memory" they would know better than to hold some sort of ceremony to mark my death.

Ideally a few friends and surviving family members would meet to bury my remains and then go for a nice lunch or something afterwards :)

PS: donate all my organs to those that need them and then have me buried under a tree in a cardboard casket (http://www.cardboardcasket.com/).

mimartin
02-20-2008, 12:03 PM
Im an organ donor, what left Ive always told everyone I want to be cremated and flushed. I want my ashes taken to Darrell K Royal- Texas Memorial Stadium and flushed down the toilet.

If there has to be any type of memorial service the only music I want played is Under the Milky Way by The Church. Id rather they just have our normal tailgate party and then flush me at halftime when we normally go to the rest room anyway.
I probably still have some notes I've written to people in case they'd ever had those ever present questions when someone dies.Ive written notes to friends and family too. After the death this year of someone like a sister to me, Ive actually just started telling and showing loved ones what they mean to me. Hopefully, the notes will soon become irrelevant. Although a few I will keep as a final up yours to them. :D

Ghost Down
02-20-2008, 12:46 PM
I wanna go like Andre Hazes.. Pheeeeeew.. BOOM!

Sabretooth
02-20-2008, 12:54 PM
I will take cremation or organ donation/research, whichever is more trendier at the time.

But knowing myself, I wouldn't go off without writing a whole autobiography and then a book of instructions with messages for people. If I don't, I will probably wander the land as an evil, malignant spirit from Hell.

Which is awesome.

SilentScope001
02-20-2008, 03:12 PM
So..my question: have you thought about your own...way to go? The music? The poems? location?

Nah. Once I die, I don't really care about the music, the poems, and the location. I'm dead.

No, I have to hold the funeral BEFORE I die.

Marius Fett
02-20-2008, 03:40 PM
I'll donate my "useable" organs for transplants or research then have what can't be used cremated.

Arcesious
02-20-2008, 05:12 PM
Eh, I'd be dead. "So scrap to sappy funeral service and stop wasting time mournign for me. I'm dead. deal with it and get on with your lives." - is what I'd tell me family about what to do if i died. Maybe i shoudl put that into a Will...

Sabretooth
02-20-2008, 10:32 PM
No, I have to hold the funeral BEFORE I die.
That's an interesting idea, really - a celebration for the imminent leaving of this world, something like a farewell party. I might actually do that when I'm old and sickly and sort.

DarthJebus05
02-20-2008, 10:54 PM
Music: Ghostbusters theme
Flowers: No
Poems: It's Tricky by Run DMC

Seriously?

Bury me in the woods, none of that service sh~t

DeadYorick
02-21-2008, 12:08 AM
Id either like to be buried in a cemetary or cremated. Its hard for me to decide. I definitely would like a service.

Anyway I would want to die however much later in life. This is why I want to die when I am around 60 or 70 so I could actually be wanting death instead of dreading it. I think that natural causes is the best way to die in my opinon. Its peaceful, you don't feel a single thing, you don't even know your dead.

Anyway the service could be particular. Just have some sad heavy metal music and some Axel F after the ceremony.

Arcesious
02-21-2008, 12:18 AM
You never know when you'll die, so It's smart to write a will, even at an early age, and change it as you wish as you grow older, if you're still alive.

El Sitherino
02-21-2008, 12:23 AM
Its peaceful, you don't feel a single thing, you don't even know your dead.
Eh, I don't know about that. Having seen several people experiencing just heart attacks/failure I can assure you not all natural death is peaceful. Infact it's generally filled with lots of exclamations of "****!" and "GOD DAMNIT!", sometimes the pain seems to hit so suddenly that they can't even utter a word.

Dying in your sleep is probably the only peaceful sort of death.

DeadYorick
02-21-2008, 12:27 AM
Eh, I don't know about that. Having seen several people experiencing just heart attacks/failure I can assure you not all natural death is peaceful. Infact it's generally filled with lots of exclamations of "****!" and "GOD DAMNIT!", sometimes the pain seems to hit so suddenly that they can't even utter a word.

Dying in your sleep is probably the only peaceful sort of death.

Heart Attacks are more of horrific natural and can be tragic. I wasn't referring to heart attacks however. Since they are to tragic to people since sometimes even people with healthy hearts get them.

Anyway I mean dying naturally as in dying in your sleep, just softly dying awake, dying when your heart just stops in a very painless way and the rest of the body follows in a few milliseconds. Many old people have died this way and it seems very peaceful.

1jrJedismom
02-21-2008, 12:45 AM
I have thought about it frequintly. I would like to go before I become too much of a burden on my family. Its not easy taking care of an invalid, just watching them waste away. I can not donate any of my organs to anything but science/ Medical research. I can not even donate blood. I guess if they don't find a cure before I go, Science it is. I want a party. Celabrate my life and the good times we shared. A service is for those left behind, but make it fun. Run a 10k for me. Ill dream of the wind in my face.

Pho3nix
02-21-2008, 03:59 AM
I'd like my ashes to be sent to the moon so that every time someone looks up at the moon they'd remember me and feel as if I was watching over them.

mimartin
02-21-2008, 12:37 PM
This is why I want to die when I am around 60 or 70 so I could actually be wanting death instead of dreading it. I think that natural causes is the best way to die in my opinon. Its peaceful, you don't feel a single thing, you don't even know your dead. I remember saying something like that when I was in high school only I put the age around 30 at the time. I actually believed I would not live past thirty and I was not dreaming of a peaceful death either. In my younger days I took a few chances, I still do only Im a little more calculating of the dangers now. Ive been dealing with older parents in the mid-seventies and I will tell you this there is nothing peaceful about death. Watching my real father die at age 65 was not peaceful even in his sleep. He fought for every last breath until the life left his body. Death can be a slow cruel process.

1jrJedismom
02-22-2008, 01:10 AM
Quoteby Mimartin: Death can be a slow cruel process.

So can Life be. But, I want to get the most out of it. I just dont want to interupt my kids life nursing me. It is as cruel on them to watch, as it is on the one wasting away.

Bee Hoon
02-24-2008, 02:11 AM
Take all my organs except my skin, fill me up with whatever synthetic stuff available so that I won't look like an empty bag, bury me, plant a tree on top (for me to haunt:p) and have Damien Rice and Chris Carrabba sing sad songs as the coffin is lowered into the ground:P

I'd like to die abruptly, but with a bit of warning. If that makes sense:p

Totenkopf
02-24-2008, 03:10 AM
You mean like someone telling you to look out for the rocks below as they push you off the cliff? :D I think going peacefully in your sleep (preferably with a clear conscience) is the best option we probably have available.

Bee Hoon
02-24-2008, 08:05 AM
*pokes Totenkopf* No!

I mean, I'd like to have some time to say last goodbyes etc. Eat all my favourite food and just generally savour being alive, because it's never so sweet until you tell yourself that by this time tomorrow, you might be gone.

And if life was a Bioware/Obsidian game, I bet someone would say, "We're going to die tomorrow, let's boink." >.>

Totenkopf
02-24-2008, 11:01 AM
*pokes Totenkopf* No!

I mean, I'd like to have some time to say last goodbyes etc. Eat all my favourite food and just generally savour being alive, because it's never so sweet until you tell yourself that by this time tomorrow, you might be gone.

And if life was a Bioware/Obsidian game, I bet someone would say, "We're going to die tomorrow, let's boink." >.>


That's done in real life, actually. Think of wars, dangerous occupations or just opportunistic players. ;)

Darth InSidious
02-24-2008, 03:29 PM
Saying something terribly witty and thought-provoking.

Corinthian
02-24-2008, 05:31 PM
How I want to be buried? Man, just tie rocks around my legs and chuck me in a river. Funerals are expensive.

Hallucination
02-24-2008, 06:30 PM
I don't really know how I want to die, but I'm sure I want the chemical formula FeO + Al --> Fe + AlO to be balanced and then involved somehow.
Saying something terribly witty and murder-provoking.
Fix't so it would definitely be the last thing you say. o_Q

Ctrl Alt Del
02-24-2008, 06:57 PM
Nobody said a party?

That is, one before you die.



The buffet bill I would on the day after, of course.

RobQel-Droma
02-24-2008, 08:42 PM
Rip out everything they can of me to help other people, burn the rest, and flush me....

Well, ok, maybe not flushing me....

Maybe just a quiet little service that isn't too long, allowing everyone to go out and gorge themselves in the American way. (that's what I would want, if I was there :xp: )

Totenkopf
02-24-2008, 09:27 PM
^sure you'd not rather have your brain eaten by a ravenous zombie? :xp:

RobQel-Droma
02-24-2008, 10:20 PM
^AHAHAHAhahaha... knew I would get someone with that. :p

Totenkopf
02-24-2008, 10:51 PM
What can I say.....I always knew John Kerry was a scumbag. :D

urluckyday
03-02-2008, 01:38 PM
I haven't really thought about it...I've always thought that getting cremated after donating my organs would be the finest way to go...but that's just me.

Tommycat
03-02-2008, 10:40 PM
Hehe Well my first plan was to have them take my corpse out to the desert and shoot me 3 times(two in the body one in the head). Throw an empty wallet and an expensive gold watch on me, and a scrap of paper that has the words "Kennedy Assasination Conspirators" but the rest of the page removed. Ya know the gift that keeps on giving. But I changed my mind later.

After being at so many funerals for friends and relatives, I just want to be cremated and have my ashes chucked into the ocean. I always loved the ocean(funny considering I live in the desert now....) and I figure if they want to visit my grave they can schedule a trip to the beach, or go on a cruise:D. I don't want a lot of fuss over me when I'm gone.

MasterWaffle
03-03-2008, 03:23 AM
I'd probably go the "organ donation then cremation" route, but make sure that my wake is a awesome party. Put the "Fun" in Funeral, as it were. As to the manner in which I'd die? I'd like to go out in a blaze of glory, but we'll see how things go. If I find someone and have kidlets some day I might prefer to go quickly and quietly if only for their peace of mind.
But I'd still insist on the party.

PoiuyWired
03-03-2008, 06:56 PM
Quietly, Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind.

*Don*
03-13-2008, 01:38 PM
I want to die peacefully.
At my funeral, preferably have Eminem's song "When I'm Gone" playing in the background as I am cremated and have my ashes contained in a gold vessal which should be further placed in a tomb filled with gold.

Oh, and the tomb has to be in the Valley of the Kings.

Corinthian
03-13-2008, 01:55 PM
I'm frankly hoping for instantaneous cremation - I suspect I'm going to live to see World War 3, and I'd rather not survive it.

Jvstice
03-13-2008, 02:37 PM
In my sleep of old age.

I hope they donate all my organs, but don't think they'll be acceptable. What's done with my body after I really dont' care since it's just an empty shell, though I suppose if I'm going to be cremated, don't stick my ashes in a grill and use me to season a burger or something, or if I'm buried, don't in the new orleans mausoleums where they push your bones over to a mass pile after your remains have decayed and dessicated the first year to make room for the new body. both of those seem disrespectful.