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06-19-2002, 02:25 PM

Is This Boy Band Member Interested In Me?

A year ago I met a member of a famous boy band online through a mutual friend. For about a month we were just casually e-mailing back and forth. Then all of a sudden my mutual friend was trying to hook up this guy with me because she thought we'd be great together. Anyway, this guy and I really got to know each other through e-mails and occasional online chats together. He was having problems with his family and we became close. He tried to call me a couple of times but I wasn't there to catch him. He had gotten my number from my mutual friend.

A couple of months later he e-mailed be and told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Needless to say, I was shocked. He said I didn't need to give him an answer right away and that he would give me anything I needed. I accepted his offer to be his girlfriend--keep in mind though that we had never met in person--we only saw pictures of each other and kept in touch through e-mails and hand-written letters. Every time we planned to meet each other, things fell through. I couldn't even catch his phone calls because I never knew when he was going to call and I wasn't going to sit around and wait for him to call.

I was able to take a trip to my mutual friend's home. My mutual friend was dating another guy in the band. I wanted to make sure she was for real. When I got to her house I saw many autographed memorabilia and many hand-written letters from her boyfriend who was the other band member. I even talked to her mom who told me herself that they were great guys. So after that I believed her but I was still cautious.

The guys wanted me and my mutual friend to go on the rest of the tour with them for the last couple of weeks. But things fell through. I was sad but I wasn't bothered by it. At another concert, my mutual friend couldn't go and let's just say things feel through yet again. They had switched hotels on us and everything got screwed up.

After the concert we stayed around the hotel but we only spotted my mutual friend's boyfriend down at the bar drinking and flirting with all the groupies. One of my friends who went with me was able to get down to the bar and talk to this member and she asked him if he knew my mutual friend, who was his girlfriend at the time. He said no. I thought he could just be under the influence and didn't really know what he was saying. He left with about three groupies to his room. I never mentioned that to my mutual friend.

About a couple weeks after that concert, my mutual friend and the other band member broke up but still kept in touch. About a week or so after that, I get a letter from the member that was supposed to be my boyfriend and he said he wanted to end the relationship. He said he wanted a friendship first and get to know me better to prevent us from getting hurt. I was upset but again it didn't bother me because I never had actually met him in person. I thought that was the end of it and I would never hear from him again.

Months passed, and my mutual friend would tell me that this member always wanted to know how I was doing and what I was up to in life. But I never got an e-mail or any kind of contact from him. He was always asking through my mutual friend.

The last e-mail I have received from him was the two months ago and he informed me that he was no longer with his girlfriend and that he really missed me. I still haven't met him in person. We still keep in touch as often as we can. I have been trying to work something out with my mutual friend so we can go visit them for a week or so. Should I go and try to meet him in person and see what happens or should I just stick to keeping in touch without meeting him? I am so confused as I don't know what to make of this situation. I would appreciate any advice!

Get ready for a really harsh reality check. This isn't going to be pretty and your feelings will probably be hurt but this needs to be said.

Is IDIOT your middle name?

Someone is playing a very sick joke on you and it's very obvious that it's your so-called "mutual friend." If you don't understand, let us spell it out for you. The boy band member you think you've been "talking" to is an impersonator...And guess who's behind this impersonation? Your "mutual friend" who (big surprise) it sounds like you met online.

By now you're in denial and thinking, "NO! That can't be true! Why would anyone lie to me like that?" We're sorry you had to find out this way, but there are a lot of psychos out there and your "mutual friend' is one of them. If you're still in denial, let's spell it out for you some more:

BIG IDIOT CLUE #1: No famous boy band member is ever going ask someone to be his girlfriend when he's never met her in person or even talked to her over the phone. And let's just say for the sake of your delusional fantasy that it could be true. There's no way a guy who really wants to talk to a girl on the phone is going to let you miss his call. He could've easily told you in advance when he was going to call you. He could've easily left a message for you if you have an answering machine or voice mail. But of course he didn't do that because you've been talking to an impostor all along who can impersonate someone through letters but can't fake being your "boyfriend" over the phone.

BIG IDIOT CLUE #2: All your plans to meet him in person through your "mutual friend" always fall apart. Coincidence? Hell no! If you're so "close" to this guy, he wouldn't need your "mutual friend" at this point to set up a meeting with you. He would do it himself. Where is your common sense?

BIG IDIOT CLUE #3: The boy band member your "mutual friend" said she was dating doesn't really know her. He wasn't confused because he was drinking that night. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you aren't suddenly going to forget who they are because you're a little drunk. How convenient that your "mutual friend" is never around in person to help you meet your boy band "boyfriend."

BIG IDIOT CLUE #4: Autographed pictures and letters (which can easily be faked) aren't proof that you're dating someone. We don't know what the situation with her mother is, but when you say you "talked" to her mother, it probably wasn't in person. You sound like you spend way too much time believing everything strangers tell you online. This "mutual friend" is such a twisted bitch that she's probably fooled other people and is impersonating other people online too. Either way, understand this: you've got to wake up and get yourself out of this mess. In other words, you need to stop being "friends" with this manipulator and liar from hell.

Your instincts all along were telling you that something was wrong about this situation. You should've trusted your instincts. Maybe you don't want to believe that people can be so cruel to con you with such twisted lies. It's sad but true that there are some people who get their kicks out of playing these kinds of psychotic jokes.

So we'll repeat this because it seems like you're a little "slow"...Get this through your naive head: You haven't really been talking to a famous boy band member. You've been an innocent victim of a really terrible hoax and now you know the truth. This should be a warning to people about what can happen when you let yourself get fooled by liars and con artists on the Internet. Beware of anyone you "meet" online who claims to be a celebrity. If that person never calls you or meets you in person, you're most likely dealing with an impersonator. In this case, it's an impersonator of the worst kind. If you can't see by now how much you've been lied to and if you don't do something to stop it, then you deserve to be confused and miserable.

06-21-2002, 08:19 AM
ok...that was...gay....

06-21-2002, 04:34 PM
Well, actually, it was very straight, conceptually. If the girl in question had been a guy, well then it would be gay :D

06-22-2002, 02:55 AM
There's five minutes of my life that I'll never get back.... ;P

06-22-2002, 05:48 AM
god damnit i feel 7 minutes older .... *sigh*

06-22-2002, 01:45 PM
Well we all know how deluded people can get sometimes. My friend dreams about being HowieD from BSB girlfriend... ummmm quite sad, there are some deluded people out there. Sounds like a great prank to play on someone in a chatroom "Hi I'm *insert celeb's name* will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend?" :D

06-23-2002, 02:25 PM
Reminds me of how the media seems to be making a big deal on the status of Britney Spear's relationship with Justin Timberlake..

It's like, ooh, she's single...


So my chances of getting it on with Britney just increased from, what? A million to one, up to a million to 1.1?

06-23-2002, 02:29 PM
Well I'm sure if you follow Britney around for long enough you might have a chance of getting with her :p

06-23-2002, 06:06 PM
Don't waste your time. I've been following her around the place for 2 and a half months and that hasn't worked at all.

06-24-2002, 03:38 AM
the way i look at it is this.....

when britney spears becomes 'yesterdays' music and everyone hates her she wont be so famous anymore...but still hot as an iron. so ... i get her adress and sneak into her house. then, i scare the living poop out of her and tell her im a 16 year old record dealer (i figure itd take 2 years before she becomes unpopular)and THEN i tell her id let her sign a contract if she makes insane passionate sweaty animal monkey love to me. :naughty:

its genius.

06-24-2002, 03:49 PM
Originally posted by Natty
Well I'm sure if you follow Britney around for long enough you might have a chance of getting with her :p

I have three words that would best describe that scenerio...


Restraining Order.

06-25-2002, 08:07 AM
I shall use some advice from my good 'friends' at Massassi to help you tell if a girl REALLY likes you:
"heres what you wanna do, sneak into her room at night, while she's sleeping, climb into bed with her and start kissing and fondling her. If she doesnt have you put in jail for 10 years, then she likes you "that way""