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PhantomHelix
09-10-2002, 09:13 PM
Ok, heres whats going on.... I havent been posting much because im goin through a really tough time right now, being a 14 year old teenager. I have just started high school and i am so ****ing confused (my swearing defies the code of the academy so i apologize now) with everything. My social life is kinda going down the drain at the moment and i am really starting to delve into a somewhat-depression mode. all my friends have either turned against me or just wait for me to do somethin instead of starting something themselves, and the girl i liked (she liked me too) now likes someone else, and my best friends arent as loyal as they were. my community of dependable friends is down to 3 friends from school, a few from out of town, and my friends from the forums. its a really tough time now, and im really screwed up. i feel like **** all the time and i havent been happy in weeks, and i dont know what to do. im not gonna be leaving the forum, but my posting amount will be severely reduced. i just need support right now from my friends, and it isnt happening......so, ill be around, but not as much. i just have to sort out the ****, and i will probably been on fulltime again in about 1 month or so......:( :( :(

Dath Maximus
09-10-2002, 09:23 PM
sorry to hear that, remeber you are always welcom here.

hope everything goes good for you soon

PhantomHelix
09-10-2002, 09:24 PM
im glad someone cares.....you dont know how much it means to have friends in the swamp.......

*sniffs* I LUV U MAN! :D:D:D:D:D:D jk lol

Tyrion
09-10-2002, 09:24 PM
I have it worse,I am in junior high....

Dath Maximus
09-10-2002, 09:27 PM
well as a junior in high school i have some advice, it gets better.

after a while youll be fine, new friends and stuff

PhantomHelix
09-10-2002, 09:28 PM
i hope youre right.......it really sux now.

Sivy
09-10-2002, 09:37 PM
When it rains, it pours my friend.

Itís good to have lots of friends, but friends come and go. Youíre only going a couple are really good friends, one that are always reliable and methodically speaking, will take a bullet for you. Itís important to try and hang on to them, but most you will drift apart from. I had a lot of good friends but unfortunately they got into drugs and it really wasnít my scene so I had to leave all of them. It was hard and I was really lonely and depressed, but I found new friends who were really good and I trusted.
When you like a girl itís important to make your move, being rejected is painful but so is the feeling of losing your chance and wishing you had said something while you still could and also not knowing what might of happened. Being a teenager is hard and there are a lot of trails and tribulations, the most important thing is staying positive, as being negative will only make matters worst, believe me.

acdcfanbill
09-10-2002, 10:05 PM
take care of you first man, and when you get the time stop in, we'll still be here... :D

Ratmjedi
09-10-2002, 10:26 PM
Keep up the faith man. You should read my post below. You atleast got more responses then me so that means someone cares. Hope to see you more often man. High School will only get better as it begins to end. It will get better.
:lsduel: :duel:

BlackDove
09-10-2002, 10:42 PM
Originally posted by phantom827
Ok, heres whats going on.... I havent been posting much because im goin through a really tough time right now, being a 14 year old teenager. I have just started high school and i am so ****ing confused (my swearing defies the code of the academy so i apologize now) with everything. My social life is kinda going down the drain at the moment and i am really starting to delve into a somewhat-depression mode. all my friends have either turned against me or just wait for me to do somethin instead of starting something themselves, and the girl i liked (she liked me too) now likes someone else, and my best friends arent as loyal as they were. my community of dependable friends is down to 3 friends from school, a few from out of town, and my friends from the forums. its a really tough time now, and im really screwed up. i feel like **** all the time and i havent been happy in weeks, and i dont know what to do. im not gonna be leaving the forum, but my posting amount will be severely reduced. i just need support right now from my friends, and it isnt happening......so, ill be around, but not as much. i just have to sort out the ****, and i will probably been on fulltime again in about 1 month or so......:( :( :(

Take a shotgun and start shootin



















































j/k of course...whoever thought that was serious should take the shotgun and point it at themselves...

Darklighter
09-11-2002, 08:48 AM
I'm really sorry to hear that Phantom...I hate it when things can get that bad:(though you know you can always talk to you're friends on here about it...we'll always stand by ya:)...

...and shout and order you around like all good masters should:Dlol

:)

Kstar__2
09-11-2002, 08:58 AM
whe are always here 4 ya!

mayB you should try to get some new friends, and don't stop posting here!, when you post here, everything seems less worse!

Pad
09-11-2002, 09:15 AM
Originally posted by kstar__2
whe are always here 4 ya!

mayB you should try to get some new friends, and don't stop posting here!, when you post here, everything seems less worse!

i agree with this fella

lsd|Wee Bitch
09-11-2002, 09:29 AM
Hey...don't fret. I know you don't know me, I'm new here, but I kind of know where youre coming from. My first day of High School I think I was the only one of my friends that wasn't nervous. Then all of a sudden sh!t went wrong. My friends weren't my friends anymore and I became sort of secluded. Crap was going wrong at home as well as at school. I ended up delving into things I never should have done and my life kept taking turns for the worse. I had one friend who was a compulsive liar and decided it would be funny to spread rumors that I was a lesbian. I ended up skipping school to hang out with my fellow potheads and eventually stopped going. Soon after I realized that I this wasn't the life I wanted and that by giving into what people say and letting them get to me, I made it worse for myself. So I picked my self back up, quit the drugs and started over. I'm not saying my life parallels yours or that you should end up dropping out like I did. What I'm trying to say is you have to make the best of what you have, and realize that everyday is a new day, and that there is hope out there to make new friends, find new girls, get yourself together. This is one of the hardest times for teenagers. Hormones are raging and things seem worse than they really are. Know who you are and what you want. No one can take that away from you or make you feel inferior without your consent. Don't do what I did and find solace in drugs or alcohol. Find it in yourself and the new friends you'll make. Life won't always be peachy but you make it through. I sound depressing don't I? If you read this you'll probably feel worse, but that wsn't my intention. Things will get better. It's only 4 years of your life. Don't worry, you sound pretty cool ands I don't think you'll have problems making friends. If you do, take =SSC=Kal-El's advice. j/k :D

Absurd
09-11-2002, 09:50 AM
If you need friends, you are overly insecure.

Be happy with yourself first, before you accompany others.

Don't be so dependent on other people - it's weak.

lsd|Wee Bitch
09-11-2002, 10:04 AM
Originally posted by Absurd
If you need friends, you are overly insecure.

Be happy with yourself first, before you accompany others.

Don't be so dependent on other people - it's weak.

I sincerely hope you're joking...
Being dependent on other's is weak, having friends or wanting someone to let off steam with doesn't make you insecure.

Absurd
09-11-2002, 10:18 AM
The perfect individual doesn't need to rely on others for counseling.

If a person can avoid the need, the closer to perfection he or she will become.

Kstar__2
09-11-2002, 11:44 AM
he, i like being alone better than being with friends sometimes,

"i'm so perfect, it almost scares me........" :D

Darklighter
09-11-2002, 11:54 AM
Wow lsd|Wee Bitch, what you said is just so true...

Things always turn out for the best...it seems so bad, but it'll get better if you keep at it, don't give up...listen to me, I'm 16 and counselling you lol...I should be worrying too really:(lol...

Be yourself...and don't give up...that's all I can say.

PhantomHelix
09-11-2002, 03:11 PM
Thanx everyone for the support. it means more to me then you think it does. thanks lsd|Wee Bitch, kstar__2, Darklighter (master lol), Padanime, =SSC=Kal-El, ratmjedi, acdcfanbill, Sivyb, Dath Maximus, and Tyrion for the help. im not gonna get help from a shrink cause they never help anyway, they just piss me off, so ill recover soon. i just gotta get some more friends. and im sorry for being rude Absurd, but SHUT UP!!! no one is perfect, and if you happen to be, then i dont know why you bother talking to imperfect people like us. lay off! and having friends is a natural feeling. its a form of security and a good source to bounce ideas off of.......so just leave me alone......

lsd|Wee Bitch
09-11-2002, 04:11 PM
No problem phantom :p
Anytime...

Absurd
09-11-2002, 05:44 PM
Originally posted by phantom827
Thanx everyone for the support. it means more to me then you think it does. thanks lsd|Wee Bitch, kstar__2, Darklighter (master lol), Padanime, =SSC=Kal-El, ratmjedi, acdcfanbill, Sivyb, Dath Maximus, and Tyrion for the help. im not gonna get help from a shrink cause they never help anyway, they just piss me off, so ill recover soon. i just gotta get some more friends. and im sorry for being rude Absurd, but SHUT UP!!! no one is perfect, and if you happen to be, then i dont know why you bother talking to imperfect people like us. lay off! and having friends is a natural feeling. its a form of security and a good source to bounce ideas off of.......so just leave me alone......

You'll never mature, grow, and progress if you continue to rely on other people for sympathy. You must solve most of your problems (especially pyschological ones) within yourself. Otherwise you'll always be this way the rest of your life.

Is that what you want? Being dependent on others for emotional problems you can learn to solve yourself? Always 'feel' alone?

These people handed you crutches.

I gave you a perspective on how to better yourself.

Agen
09-11-2002, 05:50 PM
Look Absurd, of course it's good to be able to be alone and not get lonely but it can go too far. Having freinds is always good and we'll always support you phantom! :)

Chastan
09-11-2002, 05:50 PM
absurd you need friends otherwise I think you're a little deficient

Absurd
09-11-2002, 05:54 PM
If you 'need' friends that's a problem and leads to dependence.

That's like 'needing' a computer or TV for therapy.

It's nice to have people to know and discuss things, but to rely on them to solve problems of insecurity or emotional issues will just lead to more problems than one had in the beginning.

If you can't understand this, than I don't know how else to explain it. Look up 'co-dependence' and 'self-actualization'.

Agen
09-11-2002, 05:55 PM
It would also explain why you are always having arguments. Right let's lay off him now. :) Not good to do that to jsuto ne person even if their opinion varies from everyone elses.

Absurd
09-11-2002, 05:57 PM
My intention was never to belittle or argue with him.

My apologies that he took offense.

If he saw a psychologist he'd hear the same thing from him/her.

At least I'm free. :)

Chastan
09-11-2002, 06:09 PM
i don't think it's co-dependent to need friends. more like schizoid to think you don't.

I can sympathize with phantom827 though. I kind of figure most of us "forum geeks" aren't the best socially ;) (no offense). I hope you feel better, things can be tough but remember you are not alone. =)

Agen
09-11-2002, 06:12 PM
For osme reason i'm proof that you can be popular and only be known by a nick-name and be on the comp alot :D
It's strange but i already had a base with my friends way before i got my comp(which is al ong time ago)

Chastan
09-11-2002, 07:51 PM
Originally posted by Agen_Terminator
For osme reason i'm proof that you can be popular and only be known by a nick-name and be on the comp alot :D
It's strange but i already had a base with my friends way before i got my comp(which is al ong time ago)

Hehe, I guess I only speak for myself then, when I say I'm a big dork in real life, hehe :D

acdcfanbill
09-11-2002, 08:09 PM
hey me to :D but so is everyone i know, so it works...:p

PhantomHelix
09-12-2002, 06:44 AM
thanx every1.....right now, im tryin to get out of depression (yep, its thhat bad) and i should be bak in 4 weeks full time

Kstar__2
09-12-2002, 09:45 AM
Originally posted by phantom827
thanx every1.....right now, im tryin to get out of depression (yep, its thhat bad) and i should be bak in 4 weeks full time

try to make it 3:D (with the new enchanged clone-dna-change, you will be able to recover in 75% of the normal time!)

BCanr2d2
09-12-2002, 10:38 AM
Well, here are some spare passes to Clemland, and I am sure someone could spare you the cookies from an unused Official LucasForums Welcome Basket.....

I agree with Absurd, sometimes you have to solve the matter yourself, in your head, before you can start to move on. Although that doesn't mean you don't need friends, it is that they are unlikely to know everything you are feeling, but you can use them to gain alternative perspectives, to help you get through this......
I spent a good 2 or so months where the last thing I wanted to do was to be at work, due to a lot of issues in my life, but with an extremely good friend, and looking deep inside my psyche, I came out the other side a lot better.......

I'd prefer to have 5 good friends, than 20 wannabe superficial ones.............

PhantomHelix
09-12-2002, 06:28 PM
well, at the moment, im looking for those 5 good friends who i can really count on.......

Divine Spirit
09-12-2002, 06:46 PM
i know exactly how you feel, ive been feeling like that for a year :(

eventually iv learnt to have an immense interest in music, thats far more reliable than friends! being happy with your surroundings is about being happy with urself, just learn to like yourself and if someone doesnt like it then f*** them!

BigTeddyPaul
09-16-2002, 03:23 PM
I imagine that we have all been in your situation. I myself have never had many firends. Sure I have a lot of people that I say hi to and can have a semi regualr basis talk to but in my whole life I have only have about 14 GOOD friends at one time. 10 were guys and 4 were girls. I am in college so I have experienced some of what you are going through. During my Freshman year though I had 2 schools. One in CA (second half) and one in IL (first half) so I had no friends during the CA one. That stunk. All you need to do is give it time. All HS people do not really know what they want and if I have learned anything about HS it is that it didn't matter at all. It was nice to get good grades only for a lower car insurance bill and so your parents won't get pissed off but that is all unless you are really smart and want to get into universities then you need good grades. I ended up with a respectable 3.27 GPA all 4 years while taking hard classes and I ended up going to Community College where you needed money to get in. Women are always fickle. They get a lot better out of HS and you need to find a mature one or else it is all frivilous.

Just between us and the Forums I was and probably still am a manic depressive. Always have been. I have genetic faults on both sides of my family so I can definetly understand the whole depression thingy. Freshman year is also almost always a mess. Hormones because those girls wear such revealing stuff. I can tell you that it gets better each year so like I said just stick it out, pass your classes, and try to have fun in whatever makes you happy as long as it is not self destructive or hurts others.

Have fun!

BigTeddyPaul

leXX
09-16-2002, 04:19 PM
It's quite simple really...if you didn't have any bad times, you wouldn't realize how good the good times are!

Keep your chin up, a smile is but a few muscles away :)

Clem
09-16-2002, 04:26 PM
i havent read the advice so this may be repitition

lifes a bitch ....but not all the time ride out the rough patches and enjoy the smooth

rfa_vasquez
09-16-2002, 05:31 PM
i was in the same boat mate.Me thinks i was in love with this 1 girl.But sh eliked some1 else.but its all sorted now.Give it time