Families

[Darth Talliusc]

we're stuck with them, and sometimes thats a curse.

ill bring you all up to speed on the horrors of my family now so you can understand my position. their are 6 of us. 2 boy kids, 2 girl kids and my parents. now the first girl born wont talk to my dad anymore or vice versa. they share a birthday (which is actually tomorrow january 5th). shes a lesbian now and honest to god her man hating ex girlfriend got a sex change to become a man less then a year ago. but wait it gets more messed up!

my other sister whos second oldest lives in montreal and doesnt really talk to any of us, i have the distinct impression that she doesnt like me at all. she only comes home on christmas because shes obligated to.

now my brother and third oldest: hes an alcoholic and he smokes, id die for that man and i know hed do the same for me, but as of today hes no longer welcome in the house by order of my parents until next christmas.

my parents met in university. she was actually in one of the classes that he taught.

there are various instances i could quote of family anger, nothing ever got violent physically but we're all hurting.

for his birthday my dad asked for only two things: his daughter to talk to him, and his son to talk to him. i dont honestly think he'll get either.

as of today im officially the only member of the family to have regular contact with all family members (though with my one sister its none too happy, and its only over icq. questions like did mom send the money for her etc). ever since my car accident i havent been able to be as happy as i was, and now my family is splintering and i feel worse.

i think its sad when a person is happier and closer to his friends of 2 years then he is with his family members and can confide with complete strangers like you wonderful swampies about his problems..... i need a hug...

[The Truthful Liar]

*me glomps DT*

I know things can be tough, but I don't think you're obligated to put your family together. I'd talk things over with your brother since he seems to be more reasonable than your sisters and is closer for that matter. Also if your father wants his children to talk to him, then perhaps he should try first on his part.

[Sivy]

oh man, i don't have any good advice but...

*hugs talliusc*

have you tried talking to your brother about his drinking problem?

if he knows he is hurting you as much as himself it may give him more incentive to stop

[ZBomber]

yeh. My sister went to go live with an stupid idiot, who is always in toruble with the law. I know how you feel, mna.

*also hugs DT* :(

[Yun the Sith]

I feel for ya Talliusc, but look at it this way, it can only get better.:)

[Ratmjedi]

Sorry to hear that man. I have quite a few friends who's lives are messed up like that.

*Hugs Darth Talliusc*

All you hae to know man is that we are here for you man. I confided in you guys when I had problems or when I was just sad like my Heartbroken thread back in Sep. You guys also know more about my love life and g/f than most of my friends do.

As for your problems just start talking to your parents more and confiding in them. It will work out and they will get to know you better. You are also in the position to help a little buy asking your sister more and actually having a better conversation that is the money on it's way. It will take time but slowly things will get better. Also help your brother with the smoking and drinking stuff cause if you guys are that tight than he will listen to you more than anyone else.

:duel: :lsduel:

[ET Warrior]

*BIG HUG*

There you go man, sorry to hear that you are having family troubles

[Darth Talliusc]

thanks guys, its really appreciated. and today (the aforementioned birthday of sister and dad). hasnt been as dreary as we all expected. my brother came home for a few minutes before getting a lift out to the bus station (hes going back to hamilton for classes tomorrow at macmaster university).

i let my parents talk to him alone for a few minutes and they still dont want him to come home but they're on better terms then yesterday so we're going the right direction.

im just hoping that my sister will do likewise. thanks for listening and the multiple "glomps" hehe. you guys are good friends.

[Clemme w/Stick]

Sorry for posting this a little late. I originally posted this earlier today, but then the boards went down or something like that.

*Sniff* I feel sorry for you. All have family trouble sometimes, but some got it more often than others. I wish I had something that I could compare with this, but I dont.....sorry :(. Also I'm sorry that I dont have any good advice for you, well you could have this though *Hugs DT*.

*Leaves the room*

-Clemme

[C'jais]

Family...

My grandfather died this Christmas. I got the "honour" of carrying the coffin. Didn't feel anything at all. Never knew him that well either.

My dad is a truckdriver, so he's gone for long periods of time. When he's home though, he's home for weeks at a time. I get the feeling he likes my older brother a lot better than me.

My mom and me are the only ones always home. She's usually a pain in the arse because she can't hear well, and because she's a bit dim.

My half-brother I almost never see, only on holidays or once in a month. He's alright, but his view on my life reeks of discontent.

That's my family. Anyone up for a swap?

[Agen]

I don't haev any good advice for you either, man, but good luck

[Wacky_Baccy]

I can't really say anything more than the others already have, but I sypmathise with you, Talliusc - I can easily imagine how you feel, and I know it sucks... *gives Talliusc massive hug* =)

I hope things get better for you soon, man :)


@Jais: I might just take you up on that offer... As soon as I learn Danish :D