View Full Version : Do you have a hard time saying 'No' to your friends?

02-13-2003, 05:44 PM
Here's a question on peer pressure :

Do you have a hard time saying 'No' to your friends? Explain why you do or don't.

I personally don't, but I think I'm in the minority on this one. I've just always done my own thing and not cared what others thought, so I guess that has something to do with it. What about you all?

DC | Dark Luke
02-13-2003, 05:54 PM
I`ve a hard time saying no to my friends, but depending wich friends...there are some friends that could understand your reasons for saying no to something...and there are others that simply cant get it...so i`ve to think if that particulary friend can understand my reasons...

I hope i was clear:(


Lost Welshman
02-13-2003, 05:56 PM
I dont have a hard time saying 'No' to my friends, the thing is, they have a hard time trying to change my mind. nothing serious, just little things like askin if i want to go anywhere.

Clemme w/Stick
02-13-2003, 05:59 PM
Sometimes I have a hard time to say no to my friends, but thats prolly because I'm a goodhearted person or something. Sometimes I dont have a hard time saying no, but that depends on the situation. I think everybody has a hard time saying no to thier friends to some point.


02-13-2003, 06:03 PM
I used to be a sheep: I always went with the crowd. I wouldn't refuse anything of my old friends if they asked. But a while back I changed a lot, I got more confident and became my own person, and made decisions based on what I wanted, not anyone else. I always say 'no' to my friends. Basically, my philosophy is that if they cannot respect your decision to refuse something of them, they cannot be considered a friend; true freinds should stick by you, no matter what.

Darth Groovy
02-13-2003, 06:07 PM
No! :p


Most of my freind will tell you I rarely bend or budge. I can be very set in my ways. For example, I have never done drugs, nor ever will, regardless of the pressure. ;)

02-13-2003, 06:10 PM

El Sitherino
02-13-2003, 06:22 PM
darn groovy stole my joke.:(
well no i dont have a hard time saying no to my friends

02-13-2003, 06:51 PM
i guess it depends on what im saying no to

02-13-2003, 07:03 PM
I dont really have a hard time saying no to my friends, but for some reason i have a kinda hard time saying no to people who arent realy my friend who i just kinda know. I dont know, doesnt make sense to me.

02-13-2003, 07:28 PM
Depends on the subject really.

If it involves something active, hell, I'm there. My friends are pretty much the only ones who can persuade me to do anything physically active, so if the chance pops up, I won't miss it.

But as for disagreeing with them on stuff in general, it's very varied. Most of my friends are of the same mind as mine, so our opinions don't differ much.

It all comes down to what it's about. If I don't feel like doing it, I'll say no. If I don't feel like it because I'm lazy, it's probably good for me in the end.

02-13-2003, 08:25 PM
hell nah!!!

i say no all the time to my friends.

Darth Slayne
02-13-2003, 09:05 PM
Though I have always been very independant, there was a time when I would not refuse my friends. Especialy when it came down to doing stupid things ie: Drugs, pety crime...that sort of thing. But back then I was but a youngling (like most here now) and had found it very hard to make friends. So naturaly I would not say no for fear of losing said "friends".

With hard lessons comes wisdom to the rare few. And I am glad to be one of those few. All too often some people just never learn, and I find that sad. My advise would be this. If you are ever presured into doing anything stupid, ask youself this: Are they really a friend. As Darklighter has already said, a true friend will respect your decisions.

02-13-2003, 09:19 PM
i have no problem sayin no to my friends. well that is if i had REAL friends to say no too.

02-13-2003, 09:19 PM
I have to agree with Darklighter and Darth Slayne - if your friends can't or won't respect your decision, you really should question if they're your friends at all.

02-13-2003, 09:19 PM
I'm sorta like Cjais here. It depends on what it's about.

If it's concerning drugs or alcohol... they'll tell you that no amount of pushing will ever get me to budge. If I say I'm not drinking, then I'm not drinking. If I say that I dont smoke weed, you're not gonna get that joint anywhere near my lips. And you better get away from me while doing it.

Other stuff... I guess I'll do it for the sake of my friends. I took a trail up on a nearby ski resort that I really dont like, just because my friend wanted to try the trick park it leads to. I'm not quite good enough for rails yet, and I hate the trail (too heavy for it, I stop on the uphills), but I did it a few times because he wanted to.

Reborn Outcast
02-13-2003, 09:22 PM
Some things are hard to say no to but others are easy. Hard outweighs those though. :D

02-13-2003, 09:37 PM
What friends?
I think that sums up my anwser nicly.;)

Dath Maximus
02-13-2003, 09:38 PM
nope, if i feel like saying no to my friends, i say no

that and im the unofficial leader of the group anyhow

02-13-2003, 09:59 PM
Not at all. I say no all the time. I know a guy and he has asked me to smoke a few Al Capone's with him, and I said no. He doesn't care. I don't care. He doesn't smell like smoke and we have a good time with eachother.

02-13-2003, 10:32 PM
My friends are like brothers to me, we basically grew up together so whatever i wanna do is my choice, no pressure.

Ok one of 'em maybe, but not for serious stuff...and that's just his nature, he's a natural born stalker (that means he'll harass me until i say yes, but he'll give up eventually...when i say sure! and then hang up the phone ;))

02-13-2003, 10:41 PM
I don't have a hard time saying no. No one needs to control my actions. But I'll be willing to help. I make my own decisions.
*I'm fixing my glider*
Friend: Need any help
Me: NO
Friend: Sorry just asking
Me: I'LL KILL YOU AFTER I'M FINISHED WITH THIS. Can you help me with this
Friend: 0_o

02-13-2003, 10:44 PM
Well, like many before me have said, it depends on what they're asking. If it's something illegal or involves money (because I'm cheap), I have no problem saying no. It becomes more fuzzy in other areas. :)

Luc Solar
02-14-2003, 03:22 AM
Yea...I have a hard time denying anything from my friends. But I also have a hard time saying no to people I don't even know or people who I hate. :(

I'm such a nice guy :)

So....are you all my friends?

Can you give me some money?

Please? :D

02-14-2003, 11:02 AM
depends on what their asking for but we all agree on so many thing and levels that it doesn't come up offen, if I don't want to I say no their fine with that.:) but always been independent got bullyed for it at school but ha I'm the one at med school while their in dead end jobs.:rolleyes: cruel I know

02-14-2003, 03:54 PM
As long as it benefits ME more than them. i won't say no.

02-14-2003, 03:56 PM
Originally posted by Aru-Wen
Do you have a hard time saying 'No' to your friends? Explain why you do or don't.

It's 2:30 AM, we have just been playing X-Box for about 8 hours.

The other guys want to keep playing. Just for another Hour they say. Come on......

I know I am gonna pay for the sleep-deprivation for the whole week, feeling tired in the evenings for the next few days (I'm an old man of 34 now ya know :) )

Why I can't say NO?

Only get the change to get together will all 'da guys' once every few weekends.

X-Box is addictive! Love that Halo game. Gets the adrenalin flowing. Sort of like a good light sabre duel does. :)


02-14-2003, 04:16 PM
Originally posted by whitedragon
i guess it depends on what im saying no to

I agree.

02-14-2003, 07:14 PM
Yes, i sometimes have a hard time saying no to friends. It does depend on which friends though too.

02-14-2003, 07:42 PM
Of course I don't. Well, it depnds of the situation... :o

02-14-2003, 09:10 PM
Depends on the situation, depends on the person. If it's one of my hot girl friends, I give like twig in a hurricane. :p:D

Anyway, if it's nothing serious like it's cold out but one of my friends wants to go downtown, I'd just give in, it's nothing. The more serious stuff, I hold my ground.

02-14-2003, 09:12 PM
Absolutely never. I could never have a hard time saying no to anyone.

02-14-2003, 09:36 PM
I can be as honest as I like with my friends because frankly they're all jackasses. Well, there's a few exceptions, but the answer is still no.