The person running the server has to have cheats enabled for you to use them on it. So, you could use devmap and host your own server, which would allow your friends to connect and use cheats. Most public servers don't have cheats enabled for obvious reasons.
The way you seem to be able to get the doubleblade on some servers and not others is probably a mod set to allow that "cheat" and no others.
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