Originally Posted by Adavardes
I'm gonna have to go with Qliveur. It doesn't make your life better or easier. There's just soemthing about being legally bound to a person, no matter how much you love them, that detracts from the relationship and puts it under strain. Do you know how much you can fall out of love and learn to despise someone by thinking of them as a legal obligation instead of a relationship built on trust and commitment that doesn't need a paper saying you love one another?
The benefits do not outweigh the setbacks. Don't get married.
Then the people who got married are idiots and should have never been together in the first place.
If the piece of paper breaks up your marriage, then its your fault. If you think of them as a legal obligation, that is your fault.
Fall in love with them, become their friend, and determine if you can spend the rest of your life together. The document just assures you certain legal privileges like next of kin, joint custody of children, etc. It is when you assume marriage is anymore that you start sabotaging your relationship.