Yep, that is how eHarmony works. In order to contact someone you need to be a member. Then they make you autopay with a credit/debit card. So when you year membership is over they continue billing you.
I had to go to my credit card company to tell them to stop paying, since there was a small window when you could opt out of eHarmony.
But, i did do it. And i got about 5 dates out of it. None of them really worked out, but it got my confidance up enough to start asking people I met.
Basically, catch a bunch of fish, and maybe one in a hundred, or thousand, might be a keeper. Once you accept that you might have to have 1000 dates with 1000 different people to find the right one, if will make dating much easier
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