I think this phenomenon (everyone complaining about moves you use) is familiar territory to anyone who has had a sibling learning a martial art.
Remeber when they wanted to show you a move they learned, and asked you to grab their arm a certain way? Then, instead of grabbing their arm, you punched them in the face to give them a chance to show off their kung-fu?
This is the same thing. People whine to get you to grab their arm a certain way...the only thing they know how to counter. This tells you, though, that they probably are defenceless against a good old punch to the face.
Keep on punchin'