Im surprised people didn't rush in here yet to offer suggestions...
Anyways ya hello, welcome to the (mostly) friendly Lucasforums, enjoy your stay, and May the Force be with you.
I would suggest joining a clan, or playing under a name that doesnt suggest your a female. No offense, but (most) males today kinda act funny and strange when they see a female playing a computer game.
Also I very good server tracker is QTracker
as it produces more servers than the in-game server-finder utility.