You allways can use the KSE, there you can edit completely your party members. For the Handmaiden with a femenine character you could use KSE and make your character be male, before of entering the Telos academy.
"Revenge is never a straight line. It's a forest. And like a forest it's easy to lose your way to get lost When engaged in combat, the vanquishing of thine enemy can be the warrior's only concern. This is the first and cardinal rule of combat. Suppress all human emotion and compassion. Kill whoever stands in thy way, even if that be Lord God, or Buddha himself..."